What Men Should Pay 4 Brides

 

What Men Should Pay for

 

Mail Order Brides 3-21-24 

         Spent the entire evening watching the ‘mail order brides’ documentaries, the likes of ‘A Foreign Affair,’ ‘Anastasia’ – ‘Thai Women Looking for Men to Marry’ & etc.  Saw these years before, decided to look see if I can make more sense out of it.

         Other than being annoyed, irritated & enraged – wanting to knock their blocks off because here you have ‘over the hill’, ‘let themselves go’, never were that in the first place, losers guys who can’t get a gal where they are, now fishing for ‘10’s elsewhere & hoping, expecting these ‘10’s for some mysterious reason, will fall in love with them.

Below:  men like this want '10's' & they are OFFENDED when asked for money!

         It dazzles the imagination the illusions, delusions these guys possess & the frustration on both sides.

         The women everyone claims are desperate.  The Thai men are total losers, worse than the over the hill gang.  They can’t make a living – when they do – the spend it on booze & gambling, & when the wife protests, they beat her up, pour scalding water over her – so one woman says who did end up with a ‘decent’ Danish man {not handsome, just an ordinary guy, not a drunken pit bull} & spent 24 years with him.  Then she went back to her roots in Thailand, he’s finished, fat as a hog, one foot in the grave, the other on a banana peel.

          I saw a Filipino video years ago.  A man barely surviving on his pension goes there, gets an underage girl to nurse him – he’s a disgusting 76, , they show this cute, shapely young girl massaging his saggy body, bringing him meds – he got an apt. for cheaps, {nice one} where they spend time.  He wants to marry her, she’s too young.  The man’s daughter is making the film – she’s going to blow his cover.  But even so, the poor girl who this creep has convinced he’s a millionaire wants the crumbs from his table.  They get married in a neighboring country but they can’t be together in the Philippines any more as someone squealed.  I mean he’s 76, she’s 15……..that’s not all – he LIED through his teeth, she thought he could make her the Queen on top of the hill in a mansion.  The daughter shows his residence, an average retired man’s dwelling, his income minimum wage.

         These people are so poor the entire family depends on her success – her Dad is helping her with this man, to get hitched!  In the end, all that happens so far is the old man puts her through nursing school – better than nothing.  The film ends.

         I know the Philippines is a place of dire poverty.  A military man promised their maid he’ marry her if she’d get his wife killed.  He gave her money.  She gave it to her cousins who stabbed the woman to death.  A life for $100!  The man got caught, what his sentence was I can’t remember but the men who did it, the Philippine govt didn’t even investigate!

         Back to mail order brides.

         Seeing the utter frustration on both sides, the illusions, delusions, hopes & drams, broken promises, confusion & chaos, accusations on the agencies who live off this, temptations of fraud from certain people & agencies - all of that makes me draw conclusions.  

These crazy men all want women to overlook their faults, but they refuse to overlook women's faults - they seek women in their 20's, perect beauties, with no children, & they expect thse women to fall in love with them no matter how they look & how old they are.

         Why not just admit what this is – buying & selling - & turn it into legitimate business?  Put a price on everything, from the beauty & youth of the wanna be brides, to the ugliness & sloven-liness {fatsos} of the wanna be buyers.  Make some concrete conclusions who is worth what, put the prices down if you wanna play you pay – not for sex but for all that a woman means, all she gives, you are not going to let her play Russian Roulette with her youth, waste it on you, caring for you for subsistence, then you change your mind or it goes South, she ends up with nothing & past her prime - & all these guys want is young, young & younger.

         Yes I know there’s a market for old woman, young man – but in my books on that subject I explain how patriarchs discourage this, shame the guys away from it.  It’s still there but sub rosa.  The young men want, {but this isn’t about young men, its topic is old, frustrated, divorced men over middle age – from 46 to 76} they can’t admit – that’s another subject.

 {One super old man talks abut his penis.  His face doesn’t matter, he says, his penis makes up for it.  He reeked with fake confidence.  Another man about 350 lbs said, ‘Let’s admit it I’m a bit overweight, but I hope other things make up for that.}  But what do these men look for & judge by?  Perfect bodies, very young, flawless – search no more than skin deep.  Talk nonsense abut the women’s ‘hearts’ which means they put on a good act – it’s her personality they love so they claim, when one personality goes sour, seek another dozier of 40 or 50  ladies with no lines, no wrinkle, no children, no nothing except she must be blind & fall for HIM because by some mysterious standard he’s all that although no one wanted him in America, Australia or Norway, but suddenly, desperate women will swoon over him.

         All the guys they showed on this dating spree, 9 out of 10, what were they looking at?  The images were ALL women in their 20’s.  Indeed, a couple guys mentioned they did NOT meet any ‘age appropriate’ women & they left the place disgusted.  But I did not see women above, say 30, at any of these socials – apparently they aren’t encouraged, or might even be rejected as candidates by the agencies. I saw no fat women except in non-agency clubs, there some gals looked normal.  But normal ain’t what agencies are selling, they are a meat market & it doesn’t mean they DELIVER – it means they will profit off the guys for TRYING – the letters cost money as someone translates.  One fat man spent over 10 grand on letters & when he got to the Ukraine, the babe didn’t show up!  It turns out she did not even write the letters.  The agency finally did make her show up for a lunch with him, it was filmed.  Fatso holds her hand & asks her straight out of she wants to marry him.

         Sure, you asshole, & I also want to kill myself.  She disappears pronto – he even tries to talk to her after that but you know where that goes.  BTW, she’s not only gorgeous but sexy, could be a model or movie star.  He’s the 350 lb porker I spoke of.

To see him holding her hand made my stomach turn as I’m sure it did hers. These guys are mentally ill in some way.

         Or is it just gland stupor?  I think so.  I recall the days I worked in dives – clubs where they have the female staff rip guys off for drinks that cost $40 each!  They wanted me to do likewise, when I tried it was half hearted & polite.  I went up to this group of guys in Wheeling, West Virginia, recall it well. I politely say,

         “Would you like to buy me a drink?”

         After all, I’m the star, advertised in the paper, having a drink with me at your side should be an honor.  But the gent stares at me zombie like & shakes his head no. Like the nerve of me even asking!

         A short time later I see Barbie & 3 female staff going up to the same guys, getting into their laps & pawing them, stroking their hair, laughing, smiling, all bullcrap {I see the same shit going on at the Mail Order Bride socials.} And the guys are buying drinks – they have the bread, the bread they wouldn’t part with for me as I didn’t con them.

         This goes on for 15 minutes, then alas, all their hard earned bucks are gone.  Half a week’s salary in 15 minutes for getting pawed & lap sat.  The females walk away like ‘nothing more to do here.’

 Just wondering now – those socials.  The females get free drinks or champagne to start up – saw that at an ‘Anastasia’ social.’  What’s all the smiling about?  Do they get a cut from guys buying them drinks?  It can’t be ALL NIGHT sitting with uglies, chatting them up, in the far-fetched dream you’ll be married to them or even if you want them for marriage.

 {One guys sat with an interpreter – the candidate female asks what kind of music he likes.  Fatty {75 lbs over at least} says he likes rap & heavy metal – he recently went to see a Motley Crew revival.  Interpreter says he likes fast music & recently sang in some kind of festival.  Candidate asks does he play any instrument besides sing?  There is ends, lol}

They must be getting something for all this oozing charm.  I mean really, the women I know since I was 10 – they don’t do anything for nothing - I’m the only fool who did that, me & a couple other saints, - it was US that got used!  But face it, most women are too cagey.

Then another doozey. There’s this guy fairly young – a farmer who milks hundreds of cows a day – they show it.  But he ain’t got no skill with women, he’s alone & lonely – not fat thin in fact, in shape as he’s no more than 40 - just kind of average.  Some of them aren’t bad, they just don’t have time, skill or good luck.  So this guy is not fat, not old.  Is he attractive?  Maybe a 5 out of 10, not repulsive.  Most guys on the hunt are below 5 to my appraisal.

So I had high hopes for him, maybe he’ll score.  Obviously can’t be rich as he’s just a farm hand not a banker like this Asian they showed who had accolades on his wall like ‘China’s Banker of the Year’ & played classical guitar – elite status.  But being fairly young, thin, sweet personality – might have a chance.

So I see him there at the gatherings & he gets a female, pretty good looking.  She sings to him in Russian, they dance; make out, days on end.  I am encouraged, so is he.

He returns home, the chats begin – chat you pay for that fatso spent over 10 grand on, like I said.  She loves him he says, it’s all going well, he buys her a pricey diamond ring, he’s going back to the Ukraine to solidify this.

They show 2 other guys, after continued chatting, buying beautiful rings {if they’re real they cost thousands, if not, zircons, OK, might be smart to start with that!} they show us proudly going there to get the mate.

So farmer returns & he’s at Hotel Odessa going to meet lady love.  Someone comes to the door.

Yee gads it’s a Russian cop & another guy.  They tell him they are about to arrest lady love because she’s borrowed 4 thousand from this guy & won’t pay back & unless someone pays, they are on their way to put her in jail.  Can he fork up the money to prevent this?

Bewildered, he says he ain’t got 4k on him – just $200 bucks is all – they say, ‘OK, we’ll take that & won’t haul her to jail.  Thanks very much.’

He then says - & this shook my sails with laughter,

‘I decided not to pursue the engagement as it sounded too fishy.’

Yeah, it did & how about if I sell you a bridge?

I could go on & on about exaples, mostly bad, mostly pitiful.  But the bottom line is my proposal for how it shoud be done, by the agencies.

First off face it, this is buying & selling.  You have losers looking for winners, they gotta’ pay, so no guess work, price the material.

Get all types women to apply, not just perfect babes in their 20’s – all kinds, of all ages, shapes, looks, divorced, widowed, with kids,– all kinds women for all kinds men.  Put prices according to what the agency judges plus conferring what the female demands.  Some women who are not perfect will want perfect money {some are deluded like the men, some have great self confidence or  arrogance like the men} – put it down – if anyone takes, so be it.

OK, rate the women from 1 to 10.  This is according to what these old farts look for.  When filling out the forms, what do you seek, one man said this & I’m not making it up.  He’s 55.  He says,

“I’m 55 now in 20 years, will be 75.  I can’t be with a young girl now & when I get that age she’ll still be young.  So I will look at females age 35 to 45.”

He said this with a straight face, I’m not pulling your leg.

 

The woman rates ‘TEN’

So according to what they look for – put beautiful, perfect women in their 20’s as 10’s & put their price like so:

 

$10,000. for the initial engagement.  This is up front.

10k a year in cash, after marriage, every year.  The contract is up in 5 years.  By then she should have 50k in the bank if she saved it.  This is besides normal upkeep – you pay the bills, her clothing, food.  What does she give?

You cannot say SEX as that is illegal I most countries, certainly in America.  You put in the contract companionship, keeping up with the home front – manage the huse & yard if any.  She gets one day a week free to do as she wishes go where she wants, she is not your house slave.

If she has children for you, each child you have to give her 10k in cash & this is not in support for the child, this is on top of that, a ‘gift.’

Look what it costs to have a woman bear a baby for you:

“The exact cost of having a baby via surrogacy will vary among families, depending on several factors including insurance coverage, the surrogate and parents' location and the success of in vitro fertilization. Experts say the total cost can range from $100,000 to $225,000.”

If at the end of 5 years, she wants to leave you & go back to her country, you cannot hold her back, you must let her go & take the children, unless she wishes to leave the kids with you – it’s her choice.

Important:  Any woman, of any level, including those who charge nothing extra – if they are English speaking they get 10 grand for it! The ability to communicate is as important as anything – beauty or child bearing!

Second choice, which the men will NOT usually put, the woman rates NINE:

She is 30 to 40 years of age MAYBE not as perfect as the ten’s in beauty, maybe she is, but not all of them as thin as their 20’s - but very good looking – might have children, she gets,

 

$7,000. for the initial engagement & $7k a year thereafter for 5 years – you have to renegotiate at that time – if she wants to return to her country & take any children you have had, her choice.

She gets $10,000. for any child she has for you.  This is where you take a risk – even though she begets a child or more for you, you cannot own all rights over them, but if she leaves you, you might still be able to spend time with them or not – as she wishes.  A child should not be separated from its Mother, certainly not at a young age – before six – never.  After that, maybe, let the child decide.  The child in some cases prefers the Dad.

 

Next case:  Women who are rated EIGHT.  Here the borders open more widely, it isn’t just AGE.  These are women of any age who are not especially beautiful or perfect, but attractive.  They could be in their 20’s but OBESE.  They could have scars on their face from an accident but otherwise, attractive.  Let’s say their figure is thin but not great, skinny, flat chested, but not bad.  And so based on LOOKS ALONE they get

 

$5,000. for the initial engagement 5k a year thereafter for 5 years then renegotiation.  These renegotiations can be done through the agency or by themselves.  If she’s still affiliated with the agency, they go 50/50 if she re-enters the market.  That works from the start – the initial engagement fee is spit 50/50 agency & candidate, after that, it’s all hers.

Any child begotten for him, the usual price of 10k unless she negotiates for more – never less.  If the female does NOT want to bear a child for the man, he must use a method of birth control – get a vasectomy, use condoms or she gets a simple operation where a tube is cut – a non invasive surgery – I know women who did it.  They do NOT have to go inside her, it’s done like from the abdomen area – one female showed me.

Men when they get brides think it’s all for him, she takes the risks – the risks of whether she gets any viable support out of it, the risks of having a child or children, the risk of being left as a barefoot, pregnant, bed to kitchen slave – the risk of having no friends or supporters, family around her in a foreign place - The risk of his wrath or violence, the risk of his cheating, drinking or going astray.  And in a Patriarchal nuclear family, it’s a hotbed of abuse – he has the Aces, he’s bigger, stronger, more intimidating.  What has she got - away from all that she knows?

Indeed, he might refuse to pay her yearly Gift & what can she do?  Nothing but leave him.  And that is why she should stay in touch with her agency, they should be with her family her support system if it goes wrong.  Say he reneges on the money & she has none but wants to leave?  The agency should front her the bread, she can go back & put herself on the market again.  In some extreme cases she might have to leave her/his children behind – {never her own by another man} & that might be one hard Cross she’ll have to bear. 

Women below EIGHT – whatever it may be.  These women, based on their decision in conjunction with the agency, decide not to charge any up-front or yearly fees to the man.  They come free.  These are NOT the women the glad-boys will seek as they are not the 10’s or 8 or 9’s, they MIGHT be below, although they could be perfect in many ways BESIDES LOOKS.  But AS WE KNOW men only look skin deep initially so their chances of hooking up are less than the ‘babe dolls.’

There are all kinds of men – fat – ugly – old – repulsive – lacking charm – lacking social graces – living an average or above average but not well off lifestyle – have some sort of defect, whatever it may be – yet all these men are looking for TENS!

Let the agency help them look in the mirror, then flip further down the pages to women who charge less, maybe no charge, be realistic, face reality. 

 Below, the first image is Klimt's 'the Kiss' & he has painted himself with the woman he loved.  Except he never looked like this, he re-painted an improved version, lol.  This is how guys {some of them} look at themselves as they seek women.  They blot out their own faults & think the woman will see inside them, how good they are, but in the woman, they only seek her body, face, appearence, although they claim otherwise--they are liars.  I speak not only from these videos but experience.

Granted, if you are wealthy you might afford a TEN – no guarantee of happiness!  Indeed, eye candy is sweet from the beginning but it wears off if you can’t get along & for one thing, COMMUNICATE!  The mask she has one toward you might slip off & suddenly, you realize she is turned off– then life ain’t sweet.  She might be cheating on you soon like surfing the internet as you once did.

Here we come to another important phase of VALUE.  For any woman who knows ENGLISH well that is worth another $10,000!  Not jiving, for couples that can’t speak each other’s language, it will be impossible to communicate unless one of you learns the others.  It took years in Denmark for the Thai women to learn English & the men Thai – in this community featured there were about 750 Thai citizens, & they had a community – it brought great comfort to the new arrivals, it encouraged others not to fear coming over.

For this reason, women who want to be brides might take an entire year to learn & drill themselves in English, & you dumb fart, that is worth money!  So tag that on to the initial price of whatever level of woman you choose – if she’s English speaking, you have to fork up 10 grand, even if she charges no engagement fee!

And that’s all I have to say right now, comments welcomed.

Rasa Von Werder