The Lazy Gender

By Ajax the Great (Pete Jackson)

(Originally posted on my Vive La Difference! blog)

Let's be brutally honest about something:  humanity is basically a "lion's pride writ large".  Men have always been the lazier gender (relative to Women at the same time and place), and barring a truly quantum leap in human evolution, most likely always will be.  This has consistently been true in all known human societies, whether patriarchal, Matriarchal, filiarchal, tri-une, or anything in between, so it is not entirely a social construct like some would prefer to believe. 

The difference is that in an actual lion's pride, which is actually Matriarchal, the hardworking females have practically all of the power, while the lazy males have little to no real power at all, just the illusion of power as "King Nothing", like the famous Metallica song.  Whereas in patriarchal human societies, men generally have power without responsibility (which is very dangerous), while Women generally have responsibility without power (which is very harmful to Women and children).  And even for the most rudimentary job of all for males, to "guard the perimeter" to protect the females and their young, male lions still do it better than most men, as evidenced in the fact that 55% of American men just voted for, and thus bowed to, a known misogynistic fascist dictator, and when you include those who voted third party or didn't bother to vote at all, now you are looking at well north of 60%, that is, a solid majority of men who utterly failed to protect Women and children.  

Honestly, if you can't be a provider, at the very least, be a protector, fellas!  (Facepalm)

And, of course, men have long had the absolute GALL to, um, lionize the so-called Protestant Work Ethic (TM) (that is, "work for the sake of work, to justify one's own existence"), all while simultaneously and hypocritically devaluing and exploiting Women's unpaid and underpaid labor.

In contrast, in Matriarchal human societies, both historical and contemporary, Women have more power and more responsibility, while the men have less power and less responsibility (albeit sometimes holding puppet figurehead "chief" roles for show).  That is, power (or lack thereof) and responsibility (or lack thereof) go fully hand in hand, and as a result, gender relations are as harmonious as it gets.

So here's a good visual aid, courtesy of Wikipedia:

The Laziest Kitty of All

The Real Natural-Born Leaders

And last but not least, a hat tip to the ever-insightful Liz Plank, whose Substack article from a few weeks ago at least partly inspired me to write this article.  Thank you 😊

Advice to Cougars

 

In conclusion:  Advice to you Cougars out there! You have a CAT – Let it OUT OF THE BAG!

Stop letting people use you because they think you’re over the hill: baby sitting services is the biggest. Stop using yourself thinking you’re finished – don’t ‘give up.’ Do not go ‘out to pasture,’ like sitting there knitting, working the garden, bingo, anything the old ladies do. No senior citizen activities. If you give in to this type of thinking, you stay in that realm, break out of this prison!

Dress beautifully; show what you’ve got however little or much it is. Show your best features, hide the bad stuff. Get your hair fixed, no grey – if it’s grey make it blonde, not dark, as the grey growing out will look awful. Or wear a wig.

Look the part & young men will notice you & believe you might be available. Your appearance could say ‘I’m single,’ – it’s an advertisement. Married women go to pot, wear ugly, baggy clothes, no makeup, like they don’t care – they snatched a guy & that’s it, no more seduction. Meanwhile their husband is eyeing the beauties at work, all fixed, dolled up, beautiful clothes, hair & makeup. He sees this eye candy every day, comes home to an ugly mess, ugh, loses his hardon.

Like one fat women who placed a fake picture in personals said,

“I know you men are shallow so I put that picture.”

Lol, they are shallow as nail polish but not as bright.

 

$$$ Issues & Sex - Don’t Delude Yourself! 

          The darker side of the picture: The fact that they have sex with you doesn’t mean they love you or even have warm feelings. Killers have sex with their victims before they do them in.

 And the days of you being young & them jumping through hoops – {when they were old & less than you} – are over. Right now you’re the old one - & they’re not willing to help or support you. The worst of them are looking to use you beyond sex. They now want YOU to jump through hoops, & if you allow it, that’s what will happen. It’ll be gimme’ gimme’, I need this, I need that. What a bright boy I am, with just a few thousand bucks, I could start this business & money will come rolling in, & I’ll be independent, & I’ll give you money too {lol.}

If you get involved with modeling these guys are picture whores. They get on internet sites & are hired by queers who pay them for sex. So if you get on there they think you’ll do the same!

And most of them sex wise aren’t worth anything – they don’t know how to ‘make love.’ Of the models I did it with, only one was good at it, & he was one of the oldest, late 30’s. It was the ENERGY. A young man hasn’t the psychological, spiritual ENERGY to project toward you. He’s EMPTY - devoid of inner strength, a ‘zombie’ - like a machine.

What young guys have is beauty & 5 orgasms a day. Beyond that most are empty. They haven’t been trained in the school / art of love – certainly not romance – this is a ballgame most have never played. So don’t expect much!

As I think back to the models 99% of what I got out of it was the images – sex wise I’d call it was near zero.

As far as personals & locals I made it with, the scorecard was pitiful. Why? Good question. People are pitiful. They are the walking wounded, many were abused to make matters worse; the majority of young males are damaged, confused, insensitive, ignorant & have little to no virtue. This is what you will meet {people do improve with age if they follow the good road, if they stay on the bad road they become worse}.

If you’re looking for love you’re looking to take blood out of a stone! Not saying it’s impossible. I did meet a couple guys that I believe were capable of love, but we were passing ships in the night. One Caucasian was a psychologist, only 26. He had feelings, he was sensitive. I felt sorry for him as his friends told him NOT to bring a jacket & it was freezing outside!  Handsome, too, but I never saw him again. He described how he’d been abused by a priest, but he wasn’t bitter, he had a good heart {that’s the main thing-the heart-a demon could be intelligent, have good manners, even be a ‘good’ lover of sorts, but if he’s a demon he’s rotten at the core.} He was so polite he opened the driver door when we stopped.

And don’t go by manners – reminds me of a ‘model’ – black – who also had perfect manners, he also opened the driver door for me. He said he’d been to some sort of school where they drilled the kids for this. He was ‘elite’ on the outside, but inside a sewer. {And I never used even one of his images, he was so ugly – the first guy I hired – red flags all over the place, photo shopped images on the site – he bragged abut being a thief – but I was too green to see it before he arrived.}  Don’t go by outside façade, God judges the heart, the heart is everything. You can be fooled by the mask for a while, hopefully sooner than later, the mask comes off.

This lifestyle will be a challenge. If I say don’t give them money or clothes, it’ll be do as I say, not as I did as I’m a giver. Once you give something it presents the temptation to want more; most give in to this – you being the giver. But William Bond says women give too much love – they must teach men to give & to love.

There isn’t any absolute answer. You’ll play it by ear, learn by mistakes. You’ll make lots of mistakes – that I guarantee, & you’ll get into sticky, tightrope situations, & you’ll be in danger, as young men are loose cannons. At best this will be a roller coaster ride.

But basically this is the scenario: Unless you just have sex, then good bye Charlie – if they hang around or move in with you & you gave them substance – it’ll be a pattern. The best way to stop it is not to start, within reason. I mean I know a rich Scandinavian who took a poor black guy out for his birthday - & made him pay the bill. That’s going too far, be neither a scrooge nor a wastrel. On Holidays you can give gifts, not all the time like I did! One creep, every time we went by a clothing store I’d go in & buy him something beautiful. My reward was his contempt & after a time all the clothes {he told me} were given away for drugs.

Bottom line: If it’s so bad, why do it? Adventure. My experiences were as explained. Yours might be different. You’re another person, your contacts will be other men. One never knows what to expect. Lots of things are fraught with danger & the unknown.

But let’s get one thing clear: this is not gold digging. Gold diggers look for old, rich men. You’re looking for young, handsome guys. It’s the opposite. You become the old rich person {even if you are not rich per se, but have a job, savings, a good pension, you’ll have more than most of them.} This is generalizing. There is a difference between old man & woman. Women are maternal, have a love energy most men have not. This has value. Old men are as selfish as young & have little to no love. It’s how men are.

So what we have here is the value of adventure & freedom – seeking something you hope to find but might not. Look at the explorers & mountain climbers. Mt. Everest is dangerous, & yet, it’s a huge business of mostly men going up there. The crevices are so threatening even Sherpa guides have died. It’s frightening & costs big bucks, & yet, why do they do it?

Why did they explore the North & South Pole & Antarctica? To learn something, but mostly adventure. Those who go to these places gain fame, sometimes fortune, are usually admired, but at the risk of their lives.

If you look at it that way, it could be worth it. Keep a diary. If I had kept one I could have made ten books out of this. But I didn’t, no way I could set aside the time as I had work to do besides this – my wildlife feeding project, for instance.

On the weekends I went to obey God’s call – “stop suffering, quit the celibacy & have fun.” But all week I had a wildlife feeding station where I provided 30-40 bs of food for animals a day.  The private forest feeding station behind my house from Spring to December was a Beast-aurant for everything in the woods, including bears. Once I came out with a bowl of sweets surrounded by six Teddies, 3 very close, 3 slightly farther, but all within a 10’ radius. I kept my composure & nothing happened, they just waited for me to put down the food. The trusted me, I trusted them, so without fear there was calm. One did get a bit impetuous – Scarface I called him as he had a big one crossing his nose – he thrust his paw on my bowl & knocked out a portion before the other guys could get it.

And besides that, I am a writer-researcher so I work on the internet. Pursuit of young males was constant but not all I did.

As far as sex or dating that was curtailed when the bars closed during Covid. After it all normalized I asked God what did She want me to do nwk keep looking for guys or forget it? What was I allowed to do?  I had not asked her my status all those years – like the celibacy, I thought it would go on forever but it didn’t, then this next action I also continued & figured God would tell me when to stop. But God never appeared. So finally I asked Her, what am I allowed to do?  She said,

“You are free, if you want to have sex you can, if you don’t want to you don’t have to.”

And even though I no longer go ‘downtown’ when I am out males of all ages do approach me & sometimes wait for me in parking lots. I shall keep the outcomes a mystery.

So Good Luck & God be with you on this adventure.   {End}

Sex Conquests

 

How to Get’m - 

from my new book soon to be published

 

1      Go to them.

 Means    *college town bars,   *military base areas {if the barracks has a # get it from the 1^st guy you meet & you’re in like Flynn. This was my modus operandi @ age 15},    *internet Dating Sites {fill in what age you want} or   *become a photographer – get models from internet modeling joints—they are de facto whore houses or meat markets, I found out too late, lol {fill in what age you want}

 

2      You MUST have CONFIDENCE

 

 Although most men in general want young women & would climb over a rattlesnake nest for them – however – a lot of young men want & need OLD WOMEN & they aren’t fussy how you look as you represent MOTHER. Mother love is different than arm candy – it makes one feel SECURE – this is what they need.

 

3      Put on the charm. Ratch up your personality.

 

 Be lively, talkative, charming & assertive but not aggressive. Aggression brings out the ‘fight or flight’ instinct in men – it’s DEADLY to be aggressive!

 

 Do not obsessively in any way tell them how much you want them, it scares shit out of them! This goes for internet, phone, or in person. Don’t be submissive! Don’t beg, plead, act desperate – all leads to failure.  {If you do get them they dominate you & you’ll be sorry}

There is a ‘middle way’ which is wisest. {Of course you won’t listen if you fall I love – this event will destroy your chances of having fun & its game over. I’m talking before that disaster occurs.}

The middle way: Non chalant but nice, not too cold, not too warm. No gushing compliments, hint at what might be their good points, tease them abut negatives but don’t be cruel or harsh, just make them ‘sit up & take notes’ or keep them ‘on their toes’ as far as your evaluation. Don’t be easy to get or too hard, act like you MIGHT consider it even if you plan to go get laid, don’t let them know for sure until it’s time. This keeps them respecting you. If you throw yourself at them – it’s the end of respect & then he calls the shots! - & that will be brutal.

 

4       Develop a THICK SKIN as you’re going to get it.

 

Since you’re breaking taboos people will be confused & react in negative ways – sometimes resentful, other times inquisitive & they need answers but you aren’t going to stand there all night explaining. So get ready to be asked ‘how old are you’ again & again until they adjust. In the eleven years I went to the college bars they never got over my age. It was 63 to 74. No other old lady hung out there as far as I could see unless it was ‘alumni night’ once a year when the professors made an appearance. Even they were all younger than me!

 

5       Discard your scruples, fake morals & fear of convention

 

Bear in mind that sex morality is invented to control women – men in general have no fear of committing sex sins, it doesn’t affect them due to the almighty double standard. So act like you also have no fear or consciousness that fornication & all that is a sin! Just forget yur conscience – because it’s all FAKE. I spoke to a born-again guy who preached a mad sermon on me. Then I asked him what he was doing in the bar drinking & looking for sex & his answer,

“I gave Jesus the night off.”

So do as he did. Every time you go gallivanting give Jesus a break, let Him rest & relax. Consider we don’t know what he was up to 2k years ago anyway. If he had sex with multiple women & they had kids, so what? Sex is irrelevant {as long as it’s not crime.} The Almighty, who is the Infinite Universe & created life for multiplication, doesn’t give a flying fuck if you fornicate.