Wednesday 30 November 2022

Sisterhood Community

 The Wish for a Community-College-Convent of Women

The Sisterhood   written 11-30-22 


https://historycollection.com/16-facts-about-womyns-land-the-all-female-communes-that-offered-a-safe-haven-for-abused-women-and-feminism/2/ 


Right now been studying women's Colleges & Universities.  Went through about 10 of them thoroughly & they ARE NOT a good template or inspiration for my / our sisterhood.  Whatever their claims toward female empowerment, they come across as cookie-cutter-made from a worldly view, with  MILD concessions to women's empowerment.  Not a one of them speaks of Matriarchy or Patriarchy or any of the strong words we use in our teaching on this.  They are kind of like weak, milk toast, pretenders to women's emancipation, to liberation from men.  They are not addressing the issues, confronting the facts - they are wishy washy pretenders to the throne of Mother God & women rule.  So I cannot gain from studying them. 

    One negative feature how this cannot be my ideal is they take only those who can PAY. Colleges are not for POOR PEOPLE. Indeed, some students work their way through college, but that means they are not needed to work & support their family - poor offspring must usually do that. 

    Next, I went through about 20 or so women's convents / monasteries.  They are good sounding as far as the love of God - that part is fine.  However, again, they are not liberating women from Patriarchy but they are living under the auspices of the male-domination Catholic religion.  Some of them spend each day wasting their valuable time praying for PRIESTS & deacons & the magisterium of the Catholic Church.  So at bottom line they are under the control of Patriarchy & serving them in some ways. 

    I might also add that in their acceptance of candidates, they do AGE DISCRIMINATION. Very few say they will consider a female over 40. Most want new women to be 20 to 30.  One of them says a female has to be NEVER MARREIED. {?} To me, this seems like ageism. They are saying over 40 you aren't any good.  Why?  I cannot figure that out.  When I applied to join the convent near me, long ago before I lived here, I was over 40.  Maybe that's part of the reason they didn't accept me.  But every single one of the convents I read were slow to accept anyone 'overage,' although they said they might make an exception.  So they are doing exactly the same as Patriarchs are, putting women 'out to pasture.'  Making women feel worthless after middle age.

     In the 'old days', also, there are stories of heinous child abuse which was ASSISTED by nuns who practically offered up the children to them or just turned a blind eye to the abuses of Priests.  Some accounts were unbelievable, so evil that I was wondering if they were real.  And the Magdalene religious laundries becoming famous for using out-of-wedlock pregnancies of these poor girls, taking the babies from them, selling or even killing them, & turning the laundresses into slaves - has gained fame.  The nuns in the past are notorious for not helping women but assisting the Patriarchy in the oppression of them. 

    And as I read through about 20 of these convents today, including the one I know in my town, I can see plainly they are no help, inspiration or guideline for my Sisterhood - except in that the women participants are supposed to be dedicated to God & serving Her {Him to them.} 

    I tried to find other women's communities are sisterhoods & so far have found no viable one - there were a couple but as I read them they seemed either mainstream or strange/fringe, like lesbian groups {I saw a pic of a dyke working on a car, & I thought, wow, if half the women are dykes or look & act like men, sizing up the other women with lust - won't it be the same or similar to being with men?  Which we DON'T WANT.  I'm not against lesbians or dykes - but would not want to have a large amount of them in the order, like say over 20%, lol} or trans-gender men wanting to be women in communities.  Nothing to gain strength or moral support from.

     But the link I gave is reading extremely interesting.  I am working on it now.  Obviously it's history but it might do well for my study. 

    I have learned today how DESPERATE the world is for what I want to do:  Nothing like my Sisterhood EXISTS - No college, University, convent, monastery, community or Sisterhood such as I hope for exists - that I could find so far.  If any is out there it's secret.  And some cite the Mosuos &  African & such communities of women we all know about - but nothing like the Sisterhood in a Caucasian, European or any other kind of setting which we are familiar with. 

    And if, like all my channeled friends are saying,  I will have huge funds from my life story - that is what I can do with them but I must have a VISION, a pattern, a organized plan.  I cannot throw my money away in a chaotic, unorganized fashion hoping someone will do good with it.  There has to be a solvent, concrete plan. 

    And even if these predictions are wrong & I do not get huge sums of money, what I have now is sufficient to start this endeavor, - look at this Womyn’s Land example - but I must have a PLAN!     Rasa  

 

Womyn’s Land   by Shannon Quinn   

Below is the couple who started this movement, very charitable people - George & Martha McWhirter

 

Since the 1800’s, feminist groups around the world have decided that enough was enough, and they would be better off building off their own peaceful societies without men. These all-female communities range from a boarding house full of women all the way to the extreme; a commune where only women are allowed to enter.

1. Martha McWhirter Saved Women From Unhappy Marriages

This trend of all-female communities started way back in 1860, when a happily married woman named Martha McWhirter ran a Bible study group at the Union Sunday School in Belton, Texas. Martha McWhirter and her husband, George, had a happy marriage, and they were heavily involved in the Methodist church. Both had a passion for helping others and that is how they spent most of their free time.

Many of the middle-class housewives who showed up at Martha’s Bible study became close friends, and they began to open up to one another, because they felt like this group was a safe space. Many of them prayed every single week for their husbands to stop drinking, beating, and abusing them. These women could not leave their abusive marriages because they had children, and the norm at that time was to stay together for the kids. The women were financially dependent on their husbands; it was not normal for middle-class wives to work at that time, and they didn’t have good childcare options. They were powerless to change their lives, and could only pray to God and wish that there was an option for them to leave their husbands and live independently.

At this time, almost no one ever got divorced, either. In most states, a judge would not grant the divorce unless the woman was beaten near-death on a regular basis, and there needed to be proof. People could not afford to outrageously expensive legal fees to get divorced, either. Even when people could afford it, most would stay legally married and live separately, but they were not allowed to marry a second time. Since the situation was so difficult, most women stayed with their abusers.

After hearing all of these stories from all of these women, Martha McWhirter grew more and more angry at the plight of abused and unhappy women. She encouraged the ladies in her group to stop pretending like everything was OK when it wasn’t, and to confront their husbands about their marital issues. She wanted them to try to make their relationships better, but if the man refused to make peace, then the women should not have to put up with abuse.

At that time, women were raised to “be seen and not heard”, and it was unladylike to get angry. Many of these women did not even have the strength or the self-worth to confront their husband when they did something wrong, express their anger, or to even speak up and voice their opinions. Martha Mcwhirter began to encourage these women to stop having sex with their husbands if they truly hated them and wished they could afford divorce. The advice that she gave the unhappy ladies in the group was that they should continue to do their daily household chores, take care of the kids, and that’s it.

This may sound like a small thing, especially since we have marriage counseling today where both partners talk about their problems. And by today’s standards, just about everyone has heard of putting your husband “in the dog box” when the wife gets really mad, but this was revolutionary for the time. It was the very beginning of feminism and women’s empowerment.

2. The Sanctificationists Started A New Trend In Women’s Liberation

About 10 years into listening to all of these desperate women talk about their individual stories about their unhappy marriages, Martha McWhirter started to have prophetic dreams from God. In the dreams, He told her that women did not have to endure this abuse, and that she needed to start a community where these ladies could escape and live independently from their husbands.

Martha’s husband George ran a general store on the bottom floor of their house. They moved to an apartment upstairs, and cleared out the rest of the spare rooms to let women live in the spare rooms whenever someone was running away from a particularly abusive and unsafe marriage.

These women were grateful for the help, and they didn’t expect to get free rent. Every time a woman stayed with the McWhirters, they offered to help run the general store and do their household chores in exchange for rent. These women also started to find jobs around town in order to get their own income so that they could pay for their own food, clothing, and other necessities. They started to do laundry, sell eggs and milk, and began clean houses in town to earn an income to pay for themselves and their children.

Since these women were all close friends who were in similar situations, they didn’t think twice about lending money to each other if one person came up short that month. After a while, these women began to feel more and more empowered. With each other’s support, they could actually pay their bills perfectly well without a husband. Eventually, there were too many women to fit in McWhirter’s house. All of these women pooled their incomes together to buy a boarding house. Each woman got their own bedroom, and they shared their kitchens, bathrooms, etc. Their money went into a treasury, and everyone benefited from the collective work of the group. This became known as the Belton Women’s Commonwealth.

          3. From Desperation Came Enterprise

In these communal living spaces, women were feeling powerful and free, so they dared to think bigger. Instead of just doing odd jobs just to survive with basic food and shelter, many of the women began opening small businesses around town. The two most popular all-women businesses in the Belton Commonwealth were laundromats and boarding houses. Now, people in town could carry their laundry to the laundromat, instead of women going door to door to do the laundry for their neighbors. This made the process much more efficient, and laundromats are still around to this day.

Before this time, it was completely unheard of for women to become entrepreneurs. Men were usually in charge of the money, and many women were not given enough education to even know how to handle accounting. In 1891, the group defied all expectations and formed a corporation called The Central Hotel Company, and they opened multiple hotels in order to get income from renting rooms to men and women. With this money, they were able to purchase two farms that would grow food to support food to feed all of their employees. In this Commonwealth, each individual woman’s work was seen as being extremely valuable, and they felt appreciated for the first time in their lives. It only encouraged them to keep working harder, which in turn, lead to more success.

4. Women Became More Educated In Various Fields

In the 1800’s, married women had to bear the burden of raising all of their kids alone, clean the house, go grocery shopping, farm their land, and satisfy their husbands’ wants and desires. With all of these duties, there was almost never any time left for indulging in their own interests until their children were grown up. Life in these women’s communes was drastically different, and for many, it was a chance from them to finally receive an education.

Women living at the commune had set work hours, and they shared the household responsibilities. There were also classrooms full of kids, so one women did not have to raise her kids alone, either. This made it faster and easier to get their chores done, instead of being a housewife that was on-call 24/7. They actually began to have the luxury of free time. Many women learned to read and write for the first time in their lives. Others learned trades that were usually reserved for men, like blacksmithing and shoemaking. In modern times, a lot of these women’s communes that are still around encourage learning carpentry and other construction skills that are typically reserved for men.

Once these women learned how to read, they became obsessed with it. Since most of their basic needs were taken care of, they spent their pocket money buying books, which was seen as a luxury for many housewives at that time. The book collection of the Belton Women’s Commonwealth became so big, and the interests of all the women in the group covered such a wide variety of subjects, both men and women in the town began to come to the Commonwealth’s personal library to visit and borrow books. It dawned on the ladies that they should open a real library, so they did. It was the first public library of Belton, Texas, and it still stands there to this day.
















          5. The Commonwealth Didn’t Let The Haters Get Them Down

This may or may not come as a surprise to some people, but there was plenty of backlash about the Santificationist movement. Most Christian churches taught their congregation that divorce was not acceptable under any circumstances, because the man and woman made a promise before God that they were going to stay together for the rest of their lives. It is still technically against the rules in the Catholic faith to this day, and if a man and woman get a legal divorce, the Catholics believe you are still spiritually married in they eyes of God. Many people blamed Martha McWhirter for the rise in divorce rates in Texas. They called her a home wrecker, and many of the violent men began to threaten her.

One day, two Scottish brothers were visiting Belton, Texas, when they spotted the Women’s Commonwealth. When they heard the story from the locals about Mrs. McWhirter and her crusade to remove women from toxic environments, this somehow threatened their masculinity. So they got very drunk and stood in front of one of the Commonwealth houses to shout and scream at the female commune, calling them all kinds of nasty names and threatening violence against the women. Maybe these idiots were used to getting away with saying whatever they wanted to women back in Scotland, but they were in Texas, now, and they were going to get the surprise of their life.

A mob of women came out of the boarding house with their kitchen knives. These men were threatening them on their private property, so technically; they could have even shot these men for trespassing and threatening them. The phrase “Don’t mess with Texas” is no joke! The ladies grabbed the two men, and carried them inside the house. They were tied up, whipped, and brought to a local insane asylum, where the women told the doctors that they men were acting insane. So, they were locked up until they sobered up. The next morning, the Scottish men were let free, but only after promising that they would leave Belton, Texas, and never come back.

6. Remaining Celibate…Unless You’re A Lesbian

As we mentioned before, during the Sanctificationist movement, women were encouraged to remain celibate in a bad marriage, and they were not allowed to bring men over when they lived in an all-female commune. If the women living in the boarding house wanted to court a new man and get married again, that was fine, If you’re a straight woman living in the commune, staying away from sex was supposed to help you keep your mind clear.

The “no sex” rule became controversial in the future, especially in more modern times, after the “free love” movement. So, this rule would change in some of the future communities, but most of the hardcore female communes still abide by the rule of celibacy.

It almost goes without saying that back in the 1800’s, the reason why many ladies were unhappy with their marriage was because they were a lesbian, but society taught them that they needed to marry a man.  {Rasa says:  That is an UNFAIR statement.  You first explained these women were ABUSED & that was the cause of their misery, they were not unhappy due to being lesbians}. Which is it?  I accept the abused part, as we all know how abused women still are.} Many of these women who lived together in the Commonwealth were secretly lesbians, and they lived in absolute bliss together in these boarding houses, because they never thought it would be possible for them to do so.

In future all-female communes, women would become more comfortable admitting that they were lesbians, and that was the reason why they chose to join the group. This was not always the case, though, and these communities still continue to house women of all sexualities.

Rasa says:  the rest of this article veered into a complaint about transgender men  not being accepted into women's communes.  This is not the issue I am thinking about or writing of, so I skipped it.








Monday 28 November 2022

Female Killer Wins Over Monster

This is rich for Female Empowerment

Below, Agatha Christie as a young lady....Indians....my latest book just published





 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KFjfYIFXjw0&list=PLueifgryNufHHPbESL5wvf9feEScv7yAF


This is rich for Female Empowerment. In it a great woman - a psychiatrist {let me tell you, it is no joke to become one. You have to be an M.D. & then get the other degree on top of it. I know, in real life psychiatrists do not do THERAPY, not here in the states, they only PRESCRIBE medications. Psychologists do therapy - this is here in the U.S.A.} And so this woman, who is SICK herself emotionally due to her DAD abusing her sexually. She is anorexic & can't respond sexually to her husband whom she loves. Anyway she hears the story of this poor adult-trade worker who's being abused from many angles by men - pushed around, beaten & raped. She takes this case to heart. When the husband comes after HER - the psychiatrist - planning to strangle her with a stocking, she sets him up for a confrontation in the woods. Wow, it's a marvel. The movie shows every detail. What courage this would take. Long story made short, she cuts his throat from behind & pushes him into the water, cleans & hides all the evidence. They suspect her but she gets away with it as they have no EVIDENCE. And when they suspect the beaten wife, also, she suggest to her to just stay quiet, they can't get her, no evidence, & then we move to the future. Oh yes, the pedophile Dad of the psychiatrist also dies, with no forgiveness from her - the victim confronts her Mom for KNOWING about it all the time. She did. OK 3 years later the beaten wife is in jail in the arms of a woman telling her story of how the only person who ever loved her was this psychiatrist who killed for her - no one takes her seriously, & then you see Miss Psychiatrist has been healed of her malady because of the death of her Dad & murdering this man. She's with her good husband again & daughter, she's able to eat, & she's applying for a job in a new facility that helps abused women. She says something like 'I believe I can make a change.' Lol. Great ending, not like most, where women get mauled, beaten, raped & then destroyed.











Sunday 20 November 2022

LOVER GOOD BYE

 MY DEAD LOVER - HE KNEW IT WAS COMING - SO DID I - I WARNED HIM HE WAS ON THE ROAD TO DEATH UNLESS HE STOPPED DRUGS


NICK DEATH FANTASIES


 

His posts on Face Book under dates stated - mostly 2022 

His SoundCloud music under “Nick Lambo13”






 

Words gleaned from his song, not exact, but hard to understand all the words: 

“Death callin’ my name, they wantin’ my body

doin’ drugs, feelin’ numb

Mentally fucked up

Mind is broken

Devil right beside me

Early grave

My life – you can take it

Havin’ death fantasies

My life – you can take it

Devil keeps talkin’ beside me

My heart’s frozen

No one to lean on”

Below: How he looked waiting for me near my apt:


ME:  This is NOT A HAPPY MAN.  Look, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see the DESPAIR in these words.  Why despair?  I was gone, he didn’t know what to do, or if he did, he was too weak.  And that became obvious when he finally called me June 2, 2022.  His crazy ‘friends’ keep all talking now, hundreds of them, about him on his FB.  They think they wee so important to him.  It was surface relationships – I’ve been there.  I had thousands of ‘face book’ friends.  When I left FB only 3 of them are still my friends.  Yes, he saw them in person but it was for things that kids do – playing - & partying with drugs & alcohol & dope.  It was a substance-induced charade.  They all miss the theater of drugs with Nick – he was their star.  Star gone, no more fun.  That’s what they miss.  They were not on God’s side, trying to save him, just wanting to have fun with him.

Below:  How he looked when we were 'going steady': 

Actually the pics directly above & below were during the time he was not speaking to me for 9 months - 2017 - He was angry at me for putting his nude images on the internet - his friends razzed him - & he had the new girl, the drug enabler.  But of course he couldn't stay without me after that & we reconciled.  It was always like that - break up, make up, break up, make up, for ELEVEN YEARS. During this time his expressions I think you can see have an empty, forlorn feeling.  Th last pic, we are together.


Nicholas Anthony VanDunk

July 25

"Check it out!!!!!

Death Fantasies out now!!!!!!"

Below, the only live performance he gave since age 17, rapping the song he wrote about us, apologizing, asking forgiveness, saying he had 'made mistakes' 'here's my heart - take it' etc - After that I saw him again, which was not only a reconciliation but a MYSTICAL MARRIAGE - United in Eternity - Nothing could break us up spiritually after that 'What God has joined together, let no man put asunder'


Below, cover of his 'album' 

 
Nicholas Anthony VanDunk

July 21

"Cause if I don’t say it all here I won’t say nothing"

 Below:  a terrible night he betrayed me, you can see the coldness in his face. I was waiting for him, sitting with this black girl. He appeared,  the black girl made eyes at him, he saw it as an opportunity to hurt me - revenge - & pushed me aside & spoke to her the rest of the night.  I was so broken up & almost cried. I can still feel the pain. He had so much anger at me because not so much what I did, but his feelings about 'Mother' - I was her, so I had to be punished.

Nicholas Anthony VanDunk

July 11

"I love that I literally made this for me myself it’s like making a painting that you have no plans on letting go that’s what this basically is just something for myself to go back on and I love it and that’s all that matters about this one!!!!!" 

Below, him as a tyke. He was sexually abused by a male of his family - that's why he was taking drugs &  'psychotic.' His bro suffered the same fate, also psychotic, has been in jail the last 5 years. Tragic as he was given this sentence, whatever it is, at age 20. Spending his best young years in jail. 

Nicholas Anthony VanDunk

 July 8   He says:

“If the devil can’t get close to you he’ll take what mattered most to you so he can watch you fight your demons everyday” 


ME:  He’s talking about the devil taking me from him – You ask what mattered to him the most?  The True Love of a Mother that I gave him – I was the only one he looked to that way.  His ‘friends’ wanted to believe how important they were.  Yes, he drugged & partied with them, it was substance-induced joy or happiness, not real.  The only REAL LOVE he had was from me.  Unconditional love, not using him as a drug partner or entertainment object.  Just wanted to save him but I was blocked.

 How he looked a couple months before he over dosed - Him in red - He had lost that 'blush of youth' - Started looking more like a regular man rather than the phenomenon I met from 2011 {he was 19, I was 66}


Nicholas Anthony VanDunk

June 25

Pick a side you gotta follow when that casket ride
-XoX

June 5 & June 9  – May 28 – May 27 – May 24   he announces his SoundCloud number:

XoXNicky – Overcame it all

 

This rap is about how he OVERCAME NOT HAVING ME ANY MORE  {I was absent from the scene & he wasn’t man enough to contact me until it was TOO LATE.  But he suffered like a dog, his songs say so, my dreams vividly portray it.  Instead of doing the right thing – calling me & speaking to me sanely, he mollified himself with MORE DRUGS – which finally killed him.  The reason I know this is about me is because after I messaged him on FB through a friend, he said something like, ‘Now she contacts me, after I overcame it all, she should have made her moves sooner, now its too late’ – words approximate.  He said this in a post as well as in his songs.}

 

Nicholas Anthony VanDunk

Dec 18, 2021   He says:

“A psychic said I’d die at 28 in three hours we will cheers to 29 ðŸ’ª

ME:  The psychic was not far off, it was 6 months later, Aug 14, 2022, he died.

 I told him dozens of times he was on the road to an early death due to drugs. Every person who channeled for me agreed with me – half a dozen people.  This would have been averted had he quit drugs.  But he was too comfortable with his enabler, Ruth Anne, & all their ‘friends.’

The demons had possessed him.  I knew about July 2022, had the strong feeling ‘It’s over.  Our relationship is over, it’s done.  Nothing can be fixed any more.’  It wasn’t just our relationship, his LIFE depended on it – if he did not come to me he was doomed by drugs, & he wasn’t moving toward me although we reconciled, & then it happened.

Below, him about 16, him at work age 28, him age 16, his 4 year old son




OK I am worn out from going through hundreds of his FB pages. Now it flipped back to the front & it’ll take 10 minutes to scroll back down, so I’m not going to do it, I have work to do.

Suffice to say that in the last times after he wasn’t seeing me any more, he spoke about the devil & Satan & death a lot.  He said, if you’re not happy it’s because you don’t have a soul.’  He said ‘When you sold your soul to the devil he’s going to come for you.’  ‘It’s payback time’ – all these are from memory so it’s approximate.  And he spoke of HIS DEMONS time & again, many doom & gloom statements.

He knew he was on the broad highway to hell & that highway was ‘Demon drugs.’  I was the one & only person who stood on that highway with the sign ‘STOP’ but he went around me.  However, I did save his Soul possibly from Hell or a terrible Purgatory.  It showed it in the dreams.  His Purgatory was only 10 days because of me & he’s united to God through my Soul for all eternity.  He’s happy now but the earth equation didn’t work.  I am also reasonably happy as I got over the earthly angst, released him from my flesh, surrendered it to God, & was made free.  And so, there wasn’t any notable grief for me at his ‘parting’ because we did not part spiritually.