LOVER MUST SING A NEW SONG!

2-10-20-GOING OUT TRY 4 GOOD TIME

DREAM X-PLANS HOW HE TRIED TO BAIT/LURE YOU TO CHASE HIM AGAIN BUT HE FAILED-HE’S NOW COMPLETELY DISCOURAGED—HIS OLD GAMES NO LONGER WORK.  HE’LL HAVE TO SING A NEW SONG.

Dream interpreted for a friend

       

        I was going out with a young man who at some point seems to be ‘in love’ with me hopelessly (like the guy who calls me from London every day.)

        (AT FIRST I THOUGHT THIS WAS MY FRIEND WHO’S BEEN ASKING ME TO HANG OUT WITH HIM—WE’RE MAKING PLANS TO GO OUT ON VALENTINES, BUT THERE’S NOTHING BETWEEN US ROMANTICALLY, JUST FRIENDS.

BUT I SEE A HIDDEN MEANING IN THIS.  IS IT REALLY ABOUT THE FRIEND, OR DOES IT HEARKEN TO THE EX BF WHOM I’VE NOT SEEN FOR A WHILE – THE DREAM WILL EXPLAIN I DON’T RESPOND TO HIS LOVE, PERHAPS NOT BELIEVING IN IT, NOT CATCHING ON TO HIS OVERTURES.

‘NOTHING BETWEEN US ROMANTICALLY’ IS TRUE INEED, WE’VE NOT SEEN ONE ANOTHER FOR A WHILE.

IN THE ONLY WAY HE ‘KNOWS HOW’ OR THE ONLY AVENUE HE ‘KNOWS’ OR ‘UNDERSTANDS’ HOW TO USE HE IS USING.  HE’S PLACING ‘BAIT’ ON THE INTERNET:  IMAGES TO MAKE YOU JEALOUS EXCEPT YOU AREN’T JEALOUS ANY MORE, IT’S NOT WORKING.)

        We were on the street talking about where we were going – we were planning to go some place for fun – when we discover Brock is having a party at his place, so we’ll go there unexpectedly, just show up, no invitation (it seems open) & surprise him.

        (THIS PARTY ACTUALLY REPRESENTS TWO BARS NEXT TO EACH OTHER WHERE I GO A LOT.  NO INVITATION NEEDED, MAYBE I’LL SURPIZE THE EX IF HE SEES ME THERE.)

        We were on our way elsewhere or doing something different, but then we divert to the Brock party.

        (BROCK IS AN EX BF OF MINE.  WE WERE TALKING ABOUT BUMPING INTO HIM—MY FRIEND KIP NEVER MET HIM.

BUT KIP IS A SYMBOL OF THE EX IN ANOTHER FORM—AN ALTER EGO OR ‘OTHER SELF.’  HE IS ‘INVITING’ ME THROUGH PUBLIC MEDIA, PROVOKING ME, BUT I AM NOT ‘CATCHING ON.’)

        My young man, as soon as we enter, helps me with my coat.  It’s the thick, heavy, white sheepskin coat I used to have.  He helps me out of it & hangs it on the wall where there’s a series of coat hangers.

        (THE COAT HEARKENS TO THE PAST, SO IT’S SAYING ‘WE RETURN TO THE PAST.’  THE FACT THAT ITS SHEEPSKIN SAYS THAT I’M A ‘SHEEP.’  WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?  IT MEANS SUBMISSIVE, I AM SUBMITTING OR GIVING IN TO GO WHERE I MIGHT SEE THIS EX BF. 

 BUT IT COULD ALSO MEAN *I USED TO BE A SHEEP*--MY COAT WAS HEAVY, MY SUBMISSION WAS ‘HEAVY’ OR WEIGHED HEAVILY UPON ME – HE CONTROLLED ME IN OTHER WORDS.

THIS TAKING OFF OF MY COAT IS REMOVING HOW I USED TO BE.  I AM NO LONGER SUBMISSIVE, HE CAN NO LONGER CONTROL ME.

WHY IS ‘KIP’ WHAT REPRESENTS HIM IN THE PAST, TAKING OFF MY COAT?  COULD BE THAT I’M DONE WITH THE PAST – HERE, BROCK  (KIP IS BROCK I THE PAST POSSIBLY BECAUSE KIP IS A FEW YEARS YOUNGER THAN BROCK, LIKE BROCK USED TO BE WHEN HE WAS YOUNGER) SO IT’S LIKE THE PAST IS TAKEN OFF.)

        I think ‘won’t Brock be surprised, maybe delighted, to see me.’

        (I AM HOPING TO SEE THIS EX & THAT HE’LL BE HAPPY TO SEE ME.)

        I look over at a place at the end of this big room & there’s a counter, & on the other side of the counter are two chefs, one of them vaguely looks like Brock.  The other I cannot recognize.  I peer at ‘Brock’ more & more closely.  He doesn’t seem to see me.  And he doesn’t look like himself, but like a distant cousin, vaguely like him, having the same type hair, mustache & beard, white skin.  I say to my friend, let’s call him Kip –

        “That’s not Brock.”

        (THIS SAYS WE SEE BROCK, OR MAYBE HE’S THERE BUT DOESN’T SEE US.  HE’S NOT ‘HIMSELF’.  THIS MIGHT MEAN WHEN YOU SAY TO A PERSON ‘YOU DON’T SEEM LIKE YOURSELF’ IT MEANS SOMETHING IS WRONG, THEY DON’T SEEM LIKE THEIR USUAL NORMAL, HAPPY SELF.

BUT MY DISCERNMENT TELLS ME THIS BEHIND THE COUNTER, WHERE I SEE HIM, {NOT LOOKING TOO HAPPY, BUT HE DOESN’T SEE ME} – IS HIS POSTS ON PUBLIC MEDIA.

THE FOOD IS THE *BAIT* OR POSTS THAT ARE CALLING ME, TEMPTING, PROVOKING ME TO SEE HIM, DO SOMETHING TO CONTACT HIM – WHICH POSTS I HAVE RESISTED.

MY CONTENTION IS THAT HE SHOULD CONTACT ME IN A NORMAL, NOT VEILED WAY, WHICH HE HAS NOT DONE.)

        As I walk close to the counter there is SO MUCH FOOD.  They are constantly cooking, cooking, all kinds of food, which they offer FREE to the people including those who came uninvited.  I even see the type of broiled fish I eat –

(THIS FOOD I USUALLY EAT IS DIRECTLY A BAIT FOR ME THAT SAYS ‘CONTACT ME’ BUT I’M NOT TAKING THE BAIT.)

 many pieces on a tray – looks inviting.  And there are so many foods they prepare, all laid out in trays, & the pseudo-Brock says to his chef partner,

        “SO MUCH FOOD”……….I sense he’s saying they are putting out so much food for so many people, for free, & for what?  It isn’t leading to anything good for them, they are just giving it away, & they aren’t even in the party participating, having fun, they’re just working, spending money, giving it to the public with no return to them.  He is DISCOURAGED.

        (TELLINGLY HE’S SAYING HIS GREAT LOVE HAS MET NO RETURN.  THESE ARE INTERNET POSTS GOING ON FOR MONTHS—MORE & MORE POSTS, NO RETURN OF LOVE FROM ME.)       

        Forgot to mention, earlier when Kip & I were on the street he sat down for a meal right on the street – under a small tree, a little table in front of him.  I was hungry & he handed me an entire lobster fillet, large like 10” long, white with pink edges, in a somewhat long triangular shape.  I took it, was biting it, but my teeth weren’t sharp enough to bite off a piece so I could not chew it up & swallow!  By the time I got to the party & saw all the food there, I was really hungry!

        (MY FRIEND OFFERS ME FOOD/LOVE, WHICH SOMEHOW I CANNOT INGEST.  TEETH BEING ‘NOT SHARP ENOUGH’ COULD MEAN I WASN’T MENTALLY SHARP ENOUGH TO CATCH ON – THAT HE WAS GIVING ME LOVE.

        TEETH REPRESENT:  WISDOM OR ‘SMARTS.’ (PEARLS OF WISDOM)….OR ANGER LIKE WANTING TO BITE OR ANGER/FRUSTRATION, AS IN ‘GNASHING OF TEETH.’

        YOU HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO APPLY THE MEANING TO THE CONTEXT OF THE DREAM, HERE IT SEEMS LIKE I DON’T ‘CATCH ON’ TO WHAT KIP IS GIVING ME ‘ON THE STREET’ IN PUBLIC—IN PUBLIC MEDIA.

        WHY IS HE HAVING HIS MEAL UNDER A LITTLE TREE?

       

        TREES CAN BE ‘TREE OF LIFE.’  HIS OFFER COMES FROM A PLACE OF ‘LIFE’ OR HONESTY, NOTHING FALSE OR PHONY.

        WHY LOBSTER?  LOBSTER IS A HIGH QUALITY FOOD, EXPENSIVE & NUTRITIOUS.  THIS COULD MEAN AGAIN THE HONEST, MEANINGFUL LOVE.  IT’S NOT LIKE BALONY OR HOT DOGS WHICH WOULD BE CHEAP OR SMALL VALUE.

        BUT STRANGELY I AM UNABLE TO INGEST, DIGEST OR UNDERSTAND THIS LOVE.  IT COULD MEAN THAT I DON’T BELIEVE HE LOVES ME.  IF YOU DON’T BELIEVE SOMEONE LOVES YOU, YOU DON’T RECEIVE THE LOVE EVEN WHEN THEY GIVE IT.

THIS IS SAYING HE’S BEEN TRYING TO GIVE ME TRUE LOVE BUT I HAVE NOT RESPONDED.

ALL HE HAS TO DO IS DIAL THE TELEPHONE & TELL ME WHAT HE HAS TO SAY.  THIS IS NORMAL.  HE HAS TO LEARN TO BE NORMAL, SHOW SOME RESPECT.)

        Then I look at myself, at my outfit.  I had on the criss-cross red dress, but it wasn’t showing any breasts because there was a white sweater underneath covering my chest & something else.  I decide I must go to the bathroom & take that thick underwear off as it’s hiding my body & I can’t make an impression.

        (THIS SHOWS SOMEHOW MY LOVE & SPARK OF LIFE ARE NOT APPARENT—THEY’RE HIDDEN.  I WILL MAKE AN ATTEMPT TO REVEAL MYSELF.)

        The party apt is impressive.  It’s two huge rooms, perfect squares – they are about 20-30’ x the same.  I think how could Brock afford all this?  Could I get a place like this?

        The décor is exquisite.  It’s warm & cozy, mostly beiges with highlights of red, like the type of designs you’d see on a hand-made quilt, sort of Early American, but more beige than anything – the ceilings are high.

        (BEIGE USUALLY – TO ME – REPRESENTS CONTEMPLATION.  AND ALTHOUGH THIS DOES NOT MAKE TOTAL LOGICAL SENSE, DREAMS ARE NOT ALWAYS PERFECTLY ‘LOGICAL’ IN THE SENSE WE SEE LOGIC.  LOGICALLY, I CAME HERE AS IN ‘GOING OUT’ – GOING TO THE EX, TO THE CLUBS, TO HIS SPACE, LEAVING BEHIND MY OWN SPHERE.

        AND YET, THE PEOPLE HERE SHOW MY STATE WHILE I AM ‘OUT’ BUT I’M NOT REALLY OUT, I AM HOME, ALONE, LOOKING AT HIS POST / BAITS, & I AM SUBDUED & QUIET, NOT EMOTINAL.

        IN THAT SENSE, THEN, THE BEIGE IN BOTH ROOMS, BEAUTIFUL, IS MY NOW-CONTEMPLATIVE STATE, WHICH IS A PLACE WITHOUT HUMAN EMOTION (JUST TOUCHES HERE & THERE, LIKE RED MOSTLY & BITS OF OTHER COLORS WHICH MAKES AN INTERESTING HANDMADE STYLE QUILT) BUT PRIMARILY, I AM NOW BEYOND HUMAN THOUGHTS & FEELINGS.

        IN FACT THAT IS PRECISELY WHY HE CANNOT CONTROL ME—BECAUSE IN THE STATE OF CONTEMPLATION {NONDUALITY PRECISELY, I AM MINDFUL THAT I AM GOD OR DWELLING WITHIN THE GOD-SELF} HE CANNOT TWEAK MY USUAL FRANTIC JEALOUS, ANXIOUS, WORRIED FEELINGS.  I AM CONFIDENT, NOT CONFUSED.

  *{this is not portrayed I the dream, but I KNOW HE & I ARE ONE – WE ALWAYS WILL BE.  HE DOESN’T BELONG TO ANYONE ELSE—WE WERE MYSTICALLY MARRIED BY THE POWER OF GOD.  “What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”  THIS STATE IS PERMANENT & IRREVOCABLE, IT’S BEYOND HUMAN MOODS, FEELINGS OR CHANGES, IT CANNOT BE BROKEN. IT’S HIS TURN TO CRY BECAUSE HE DOESN’T UNDERSTAND THIS & NOW HE’S ANXIOUS, WORRIED & CONFUSED WHILE I SIT HERE IN SERENITY.}*

        I find the restroom & begin what is an arduous dismantling of the dress, (because it’s cramped quarters, like the bath is 4x4’) then two sets of clothing underneath, finally getting it off in this tiny cramped room.  Someone is at the door & I exclaim I’ll be out in a minute.

        (REST ROOM CAN MEAN MORE THAN ONE THING.  IT’S PRIVACY, IT’S RELIEF.  HERE I WANT TO CHANGE IN PRIVACY, TO CHANGE MY DRESS FROM WHAT IT WAS TO SOMETHING DIFFERENT.  THE THREE LAYERS, THE OUTFIT SEEMS TO BE TIGHT, & THE ROOM IS TINY – UNCOMFORTABLE.

        THIS I THINK REFERS TO THE FEELINGS THAT WERE AROUSED IN ME I DIDN’T LIKE – TROUBLESOME ONES, DISCOMFORTING ONES, AS A FRIEND INVITED ME OUT & TWEAKED IN ME THOSE SAME OLD FEELINGS I USED TO HAVE:  WHAT IF, WHAT IF, WHAT THEN, WHAT THEN?

        I WANT TO GET OUT OF THOSE FEELINGS, I WANT TO BE FREE.  THE TIGHTNESS OF THE CLOTHING & THE WALLS SO CLOSE IS THE LACK OF LIBERTY / FREEDOM THESE THOUGHTS INCUR.  WHAT I CHANGE INTO WILL BE MY THOUGHTS / FEELINGS IMPROVED.

SOMEONE AT THE DOOR WHERE I SAY I’LL ONLY BE A MINUTE MIGHT MEAN IT DOESN’T TAKE ME LONG TO FIX THE ATTITUDE, TO FREE MYSELF.  AND IS THE PERSON AT THE DOOR MEANINGFUL?  IT COULD BE THAT BROCK WANTS TO CHANGE ALSO, TO FIND RELIEF FROM HIS SORROWS.  BUT THE DREAM DOES NOT SAY WHO IT IS IN ANY SYMBOLIC FORM, THIS IS BUT A GUESS, THE PERSON IS PROBABLY A TOOL TO HEAR ME SAY ‘JUST A MOMENT.’)

        As I’m in there I think it’s amazing, as for all the hundred or so people at the party, I am the only one using the bathroom.  I see in my mind’s eye CALM SERENE RATHER SUBDUED PEOPLE; several dressed in like grey with blue (hard to explain) columns or round, smooth cords up & down their arms & other clothing.

(THESE ARE MYSTERIOUS SYMBOLS.  GREY IS THE BRAIN OR THOUGHTS, BLUE CAN BE SADNESS BUT IT’S ALSO A COLOR OF GOD – *MOST PEOPLE ASCEND INTO HEAVEN IN A BLUE LIGHT.*  SINCE THE REST OF THE SYMBOLS POINT TO COOL & CALM SHALL WE TAKE THE ‘BLUE’ TO MEAN THAT—COOL & CALM MIND—RATHER THAN THE BITS & PIECES OF RED (EXTREME EMOTION & POSSIBLE SUFFERING) HERE & THERE IN THE ‘QUILT OF LIFE?’

SO WE TAKE THE MYSTERY OUT OF THIS CLOTHING, THE CORDS & COLUMNS OF SMOOTH PLASTIC-LIKE THINGIES ARE MY ENTIRE BODY IS NOW NO LONGER AGITATED BY EMOTIONS.  I’M ‘COOL AS A CUCUMBER’—YES CUCUMBERS ARE SORT OF LIKE ‘PLASTIC, SMOOTH TUBES’.  AND SO WE HAVE SOLVED THE MYSTERY, BLUE HERE REPRESENTS ‘COOLNESS’ RATHER THAN SADNESS.

HERE IS SOME EVIDENCE COMES TO MIND:  YOU GO OUT IN THE FREEZING COLD YOUR OUTER EXTREMETIES TURN RATHER BLUE INSTEAD OF PINK OR SANGUINE, AS THE BLOOD STOPS FUELING THEM, IT GETS SLOW.)

  Their behavior is unusual as usually people are raucous when they’re drinking – like in bars – but they are subdued & quiet.

        (THE CALM-SERENE PEOPLE REPRESENTS MY REACTION TO HIS INTIMIDATING POSTS—THERE IS NONE.  IT’S NOT LIKE THE OLD DAYS WHERE I REACTED WITH EXTREME EMOTION, NOW I’M ‘CALM, COOL & COLLECTED.’  IT’S A NEW ME IN THIS RELATIONSHIP.  I AM ‘SUBDUED & QUIET’ LIKE THE PEOPLE HERE.)

        As I change my outfit it becomes completely different.  Now my dress turns into like an ‘hourglass’ –a wasp-waist,  with a green sash, the skirt & top beige burlap, the skirt bellows out round –to my knees – the outfit becomes nothing like what it was before but it’s STRIKING.

        (THE BIG CLUE IS THE HOURGLASS.  HOW DO I CALM MY NERVES, FIND PEACE & FREEDOM AGAIN?  WITH THE THOUGHT,

        “LADY, IT’S A MATTER OF *TIME.*  HE WILL BE YOURS IN TIME, WHEN IT’S TIME, WHEN THE CIRCUMSTANCES ARE RIGHT, WHEN HE’S READY TO DO RIGHT……..

*{dream does not explain, but I will add this:  This dream shows his activity, but what he’s doing isn’t the right thing.  This has been the problem all along, his behavior.  You cannot have a relationship with this man without respect.  Respect is the glue that holds two people together – you cannot have a good relationship without respect, it is essential…….

The dream shows him trying to keep the relationship back ‘in the day’ when he was arrogant, self centered, selfish & cruel.  Yes he was in love, but he used you as a whipping post, to vent his negative emotions……but this is a new day.  He has to grow up.

 He must understand he can’t be a baby any more with temper tantrums, revenge, provocation, intimidation, instead of respect, kindness, love, & consideration………

You know he needed time TO GROW UP—TO GET OVER HIMSELF.  He has grown, he’s learned, he tried his ‘old games,’ – he even admitted they weren’t working in a post – You no longer react to baby’s temper tantrums, you let him cry & scream until he falls asleep.  If you react to bad behavior, you reinforce it.  He then has control, he got a rise out of you – just what he wanted.  You ignore his provocations – like the posts designed to inspire jealousy – he stops doing them.  He has to think of another way to get your attention. 

What could that way be, pray tell?  The normal, natural way that virtuous humans behave.})*……….

        TO REITERATE:

“As I change my outfit it becomes completely different.  Now my dress turns into like an ‘hourglass’ –a wasp-waist,  with a green sash, the skirt & top beige burlap, the skirt bellows out round –to my knees – the outfit becomes nothing like what it was before but it’s STRIKING.”

(SYMBOLS:  HOURGLASS IS TIME.  WILL HAPPEN AT THE RIGHT TIME.

A GREEN SASH:  LIFE.  A SASH, IN ONE CULTURE I HAVE SEEN, THE BUSBAND PUTS A BEAUTIFUL RED SASH AROUND THE BRIDE WHILE SHE HAS HER WHITE DRESS ON. HE PURPOSELY TIES IT.  THEN SHE TURNS IT AROUND SO THE ORNAMENT SHOWS IN FRONT, THE TIE IN BACK.

THE SASH IS LIKE A RING, BOND, OR THREAD, THE ‘TIES THAT BIND,’ – ‘WITH THIS RING I THEE WED’.  THIS IS THE BOND, THEAD, ‘TYING THE KNOT FOR LIFE.’

THE BURLAP?  THAT I COULD NOT GUESS RIGHT AWAY, BUT NOW I GOT IT.  IT’S POVERTY.  WHY IS IT HERE?  MYSTERIOUS BUT THIS IS WHY:  POVERTY IS A VIRTUE, IT IS THE GIVING UP OF DESIRE, LIKE JESUS CHOOSING TO BE POOR, ST. FRANCIS OF ASSISSI & HIS BROTHERS, THESE TYPE OF POOR MONKS, WEAR BROWN ROBES MADE OF POOR, ROUGH MATERIAL.  THEY HAVE GIVEN UP THEIR DESIRES FOR THE THINGS OF THE WORLD.

        IT IS HUMAN DESIRE THAT MAKES US SUFFER; THE YEARNING, ANXIETY FOR THINGS WE WANT.  THIS SAYS I HAVE GIVEN UP MY HUMAN DESIRE FOR THIS MAN, ‘WHAT WILL BE, WILL BE.  IF IT IS GOD’S WILL, HE IS MINE.’  AND IT IS GOD’S WILL, BECAUSE SHE HOOKED US TOGETHER.  I HAVE BUT TO WAIT.  I CANNOT MANIPULATE THE TIME OF IT OR HIS EMOTIONS.  I JUST HAVE TO WAIT & TRUST IN GOD. 

        THAT MEANS NO MORE ANGST FOR ME, I AM AT PEACE.  HERE IN THE DREAM, I AM DANCING IN THIS DRESS OF TIME, LIFE & POVERTY.  I AM FREE.

        I talk to my friends how beautiful this apt looks & I ask can I get one like this?

        (SPEAKING OF THIS STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS THAT I LOVE & WANT, THE STATE OF NONDUALITY OR CONTEMPLATION.  NOTICE THESE TWO ROOMS AS WELL AS MY BURLAP DRESS WERE BOTH BEIGE WHICH IS CONTEMPLATION.  ‘OUR LADY OF MOUNT CARMEL’ & HER ‘SCAPULAR’ OR SYMBOLIC CLOTHING ARE THIS WAY.)