Dream interpreted for a friend

3-7-20-SEX WITH ME IS HIS MAIN NEED

          I was with my lover/husband in bed making love, but I was taking my time.  I see his penis like I am on his left lying down facing him looking downward at his penis, & I see it is covered with some sort of grey translucent matter in bits & pieces.

 

          (GREY, TRANSLUCENT MATTER IN BITS & PIECES:  THEY GREY GIVES IT AWAY THAT I HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT THIS ISSUE NOW & AGAIN—CONCERNING SEX.  AND YES, I HAVE BEEN PROCRASTINATING TOWARD IT.)

          I talk about this & say that I put a lot of COCONUT OIL on his penis.

          (COCONUT OIL, ON PENIS:  AMAZING SYMBOL.  COCONUT OIL IS SOLID WHEN IT’S COOL & TURNS INTO OIL WHEN IT’S WARM.  THESE BITS & PIECES ARE SOLID, SO IT SAYS THE COCONUT OIL IS COOL.  THAT MEANS OUR AFFAIR HAS BEEN COOL, WE HAVE NOT BEEN HAVING SEX DUE TO MY DECISION.  I HAVE KEPT HIS PENIS FROM GETTING WARM OR HOT.)

           Then he tells me he wants no procrastination, I should get down to business & do what he wants which is the basics of sex.            He explains it in his own way, I don’t recall the words, but mainly telling me this is the paramount thing he needs from me.  But I protest saying,

          “Other people get to sit across from you at a table & have a meal with you – I don’t.”

          “Other people get to go to town with you & walk around together, enjoying your company – I don’t.”

 

          “Other people get to hang around with you just for companionship & talk to you – I don’t,”

          I’m simply saying I am being deprived of pleasures & companionship that are not sex, & so my procrastinating here is justified.

 

          (JUSTIFIED, PROCRASTINATION:  THIS IS SAYING I WANT MORE THAN SEX, SO I HELD OUT ON SEX GIVING MYSELF LEVERAGE TO NEGOTIATE,

          “YOU WANT SEX, YOU SAY HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO YOU, BUT WHAT I WANT IS A RELATIONSHIP {THAT INCLUDES MORE THAN SEX.})

          I see myself doing what we do to get him going & that’s what he talks about, it’s the main thing he wants & needs me for, but it’s not the only thing I want from him.

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          MEANING:  This dream explains the conflict of interest between the male & female in this case.  He wants sex, that’s his main interest.  She wants a relationship.  It raises many questions as to the mental/emotional difference between men & women.

          Do men basically ‘marry’ women because they want sex from them on a regular basis?  It seems that way.  Is sex the paramount way men express their desires, how they are satisfied?  This is the cross purposes happening here. 

 

          The dream does not offer any solution, it merely states that his desire continues but the female remains unsatisfied as to other conditions.  The dream explains his need, her need—nothing else.

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SYMBOLS IN THE DREAM 3-7-20

GREY, TRANSLUCENT MATTER IN BITS & PIECES:

  THE GREY GIVES IT AWAY--THAT YOU HAVE BEEN *THINKING* ABOUT THIS ISSUE NOW & AGAIN—CONCERNING SEX.  AND YES, YOU HAVE BEEN PROCRASTINATING TOWARD IT.

         

          COCONUT OIL, ON PENIS:

  AMAZING SYMBOL.  COCONUT OIL IS SOLID WHEN IT’S COOL & TURNS INTO OIL WHEN IT’S WARM.  THESE BITS & PIECES ARE SOLID, SO IT SAYS THE COCONUT OIL IS COOL.  THAT MEANS YOUR AFFAIR HAS BEEN COOL, YOU HAVE NOT ALLOWED HIM SEX.  YOU HAVE KEPT HIS PENIS FROM GETTING WARM OR HOT.  THE COCONUT OIL BEING WARM WOULD MEAN HAVING SEX.

 

PROCRASTINATION, JUSTIFIED:

  THIS IS SAYING YOU WANT MORE THAN SEX, SO YOU HELD OUT ON SEX DEMONSTRATING THIS ISN’T ENOUGH,

          “YOU WANT SEX, YOU SAY HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO YOU, BUT WHAT I WANT IS A RELATIONSHIP—WHICH INCLUDES MORE THAN SEX.”